My sons's good friend has been told to stay away from him for a while by his mother.

I am new here. Need to talk to someone who is going through the same thing. I have had so many tears lately. I am afraid My son is going to be isolated. He wants to socialize with other kids so bad and seems to do well most of the time but has episodes when he doesn't do well. He got upset with this particular friend and choked him at the school playground after school. I was busy talking to another mother about how to deal with the school and didn't see it. His mother, who I thought was a good friend told me what happened and said she had taken care of it. I don't think he really hurt the other boy but I probably should have taken him home then. The mother then sent me an email the following weekend explaining that she had no ill feeling's toward me but that she told her son he should spend some time away from mine. This made me so sad because I thought she was one of the few people who understood my situation since I had been telling her all about it and she seemed to empathize. Also her son was very nice to mine and seemed to really like him, even after this particular incident. I understand her concerns as a mother. I don't think I would like it either. I just feel like my son and I have been ostracized. I'm afraid it's going to happen with other parents and their kids, especially since she was a particularly nice and, I thought, non-judgemental person. I really don't want this to happen to my son. We started therapy, once a week about two months ago. I think it is helping but he still has episodes. Will it get better????? I just want my son to grow up healthy and happy and have some friends. Anybody have some success stories?

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Permalink Reply by Jennifer K on March 2, 2010 at 11:29am

I forgot to mention that my son is 7 years old and has been diagnosed with Sensory Processing Dysfunction and maybe ADHD. Not sure yet.

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Permalink Reply by Mary Gardner on April 12, 2010 at 10:23am

Hey girl.. many of us have been there.. and had to realize that it's your family and your family journey alone. It can be very difficult to go this journey alone and not know what to do. I believe that God will give you grace to handle it if you ask Him for it.. and grace for your child also.

We have been left behind, not invited, kicked out of camps, and social events, and you name it, throughout the years. Also, we have had to put the stop to our child playing with other sensory seekers when the other child got too rough. These kids need constant attention and you can't leave them unattended. This is so hard to do.. but eventually, as they get older, you'll be able to handle it better. The younger years are very difficult.

Had I known that much of this is CHEMICAL based and that food allergies are the culprit in many cases.. and had I known how OT and exercise can help SO much.. then we would not have suffered so much.

Please know you're in my prayers and if I can help in any way, I will! mary@marygardner.com Best, Mary

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Permalink Reply by nicola giachetti on December 19, 2011 at 8:32pm

i understand your frustrations, my son is 3.5 years old and i used to be part of a mommies playgroup but i soon realized that my son was different and plays different than other kids and quickly gets overwhelmed. Other kids would try to talk to him but get frustrated when he wouldnt respond (since he cant talk yet other than mama and dada pretty much) but also he is friendly and wants to play but doesnt know when to stop when he gets in there personal space. i was talking to one mom when my son and her son were in a bouncy house one time and before i know it my son had wrestled the other boy to the ground and had pinned him down. The mom freaked out and dragged my son off him and walked away upset. i too was upset and repriminded him but im not sure he could help himself. The mom in this case was nice about it but they don't understand and i felt awkward and realized i can't keep my eyes off of him and unless you have a kid with special needs you can never understand. You are not alone and I sometimes feel that way. i havent found a social group yet where i can meet other moms in person to talk and interact with so i do feel isolated. I am currently reading an elephant in the playroom and it makes me smile, i would recommend it

My sons's good friend has been told to stay away from him for a while by his mother.

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